Three Levels of Homosexuality (LGBT 4)

I use the traditional term “homosexuality” instead of “same-sex attraction” here because the latter is not broad enough for the points I am making in this particular blog. What people call homosexuality actually comes in three different forms, each describing a larger group than the previous. Since people, particularly church people, often confuse these forms, and that leads to serious misunderstanding, it is important to be as clear as possible.

Gay or Lesbian Identity. As noted earlier, in the narrowest sense homosexuality can be a matter of identity, not just a matter of orientation or attraction. To have a gay or a lesbian identity mean that a person who feels attracted to the same sex embraces that attraction as core to their identity. Gays and lesbians, in the technical sense, do not see themselves as primarily black or white, male or female, German or Hispanic; their core identity is wrapped up in their attraction to those of the same gender. It is “who they are.” They are not ashamed of their orientation, they can even be militant in promoting it. Homosexual people who embrace a gay or lesbian identity offer the biggest challenging to churches who embrace the New Testament understanding of the gospel. According to the New Testament, no one can serve two masters. Either Jesus Christ and the gospel are central to one’s identity or something else is. All are equal at the foot of the cross and all are likewise challenged to embrace Christ’s call for total and unlimited commitment. Promoting Christ commitment is not prejudice or “gay-bashing,” it is the same commitment all are asked to do, whether straight or otherwise. Your former core commitment may have been to a country, or an ethnic group, or your relatives, or you racial peers; all are called to make their one and only central commitment to the person and mission of Jesus Christ. Gays and lesbians are to be treated as equals at the foot of the cross, and they too are called to make Jesus Christ their one and only central commitment. On this matter there is no inequality and there can be no compromise.

Homosexual Orientation. But gay and lesbian identity is only one aspect of the church’s dealings with homosexuality. Gays and lesbians truly sold out to their sexual identity are a relatively small group. There is a much larger group of people who are strongly and consistently attracted to others of the same sex. This is what we would call homosexual orientation or same-sex orientation. For them, the orientation to the same sex seems as natural as the typical heterosexual person’s orientation to the opposite sex. But orientation and identity are not the same thing. Full disclosure, when it comes to orientation, I am about as heterosexual as they come, but I don’t make that the center of my life or my theology. It is an aspect of who I am but it is not core to my identity. While I once strongly identified as a German-American and as an awesome athletic specimen (in my dreams at least), my core identity is now centered in Jesus Christ and the unique picture of God I learned as a member of the Seventh-day Adventist Church. And I know people with a homosexual orientation who are just as committed to Christ and the church as I am. They do not embrace their orientation in place of Christ or alongside Christ. It is something they feel that they did not choose and cannot change, so they seek to keep it submitted to Jesus Christ as much as I commit my heterosexuality to Him.

Same-Sex Attractions. There is an even larger group of people who do not have a homosexual orientation but may have on occasion felt a homosexual attraction. It is not uncommon for a heterosexual person at one point or another in their life to see someone else of the same sex and feel something stirring that they did not expect. As mentioned earlier, I am about as heterosexual as they come. But I can remember as a young person talking with one of my teachers. It was a friendly conversation, we were face to face about a foot apart, and he had this interesting moustache that moved when he talked. Suddenly, in the back of my mind I heard the words, “Kiss him.” I didn’t, but I wondered for a long time where that had come from and what it meant (more on that later). More recently, I spoke with a colleague in the medical school who specializes in psychology and asked him what percentage of heterosexual people have an experience like mine. “I don’t know any research on it,” he said, “but based on my counseling experience I’d say somewhere between 50 and 100%. What do these kinds of experiences mean and how does the whole homosexual spectrum fit into the biblical world view? Where does this come from? Is it a choice? How should the church relate to people who disclose a homosexual orientation? Stay tuned.

2 thoughts on “Three Levels of Homosexuality (LGBT 4)

  1. denise bindernagel

    I think reading these posts on queers has educated me on word usage as well as better understanding the complex situation. But I am left with a practical quandary. What to do with a queer person in situations usually divided by traditional gender orientation: bathrooms, showers, changing rooms, tents for Pathfinder outings come immediately to mind. I want to accept like I do my grandson’s Down Syndrome, not the way God meant things to be, but how he is. Some parts of the manifestation of JJ’s difference are unchangeable and must be accepted and accommodated. Some like his non-communication and lack of other life skills I am working desperately to change. Some of JJ’s differences are an affront to other people’s sensibilities but there is no question about the need to train him out of exhibiting said activities. But there seems to be a mind in dealing with the LGBTQ that their alternate ways should prevail that they have a right to be places that ignore the society structure and taboos. We are now told that someone can be one gender one day and another another day and we aren’t to question anything, or restrict anything. How do we who work with children deal with this?

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    1. Jon Paulien Post author

      Great questions. I hope the series as a whole will cover these, at least to some degree.

      I would draw a distinction between a belief system and its application at the local level. As a denomination we need to know where we stand. But in a local context, we need to show compassion, love and understanding first. LGBTIQ need fixing just as much or as little as I do, but perhaps of a different kind. The church needs to be a place where they can explore Christ safely. When they want to become members, we can talk about what total commitment to Christ might mean for them.

      The solution to transgender bathrooms is simple. A big one for men, a big one for women and a single stall for all genders. In many churches there already is a third bathroom reserved for pastor and elders, we would just need to make it public.

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